The Fear of Love
Some people are afraid to fall in love. They are in an endless attempt to negotiate with the uncertainties love brings for them. Here is one example...
"I've been in love with you for weeks.'
There's no such thing,' she says. 'It's a rhetorical device. It's a bourgeois fallacy.'
Haven't you ever been in love, then?'
When I was younger,' she says, 'I allowed myself to be constructed by the discourse of romantic love for a while, yes.'
What the hell does that mean?'
We aren't essences, Vic. We aren't unique individual essences existing prior to language. There is only language."
There's no such thing,' she says. 'It's a rhetorical device. It's a bourgeois fallacy.'
Haven't you ever been in love, then?'
When I was younger,' she says, 'I allowed myself to be constructed by the discourse of romantic love for a while, yes.'
What the hell does that mean?'
We aren't essences, Vic. We aren't unique individual essences existing prior to language. There is only language."
--David Lodge
...they theorize love and forget that love happens in the complete absence of negotiations between the self and the external. There is only complete forgetting of the internal self and the external. Some people are really afraid to fall in love.
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Here is a definition of love that I have always appreciated:
Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails.
@Broken star--I look forward to your story.
@Terri--Thank you Tia. I had purposefully left out a gap in the write up for the readers to fill. And your words aptly fill it. Well said.
I think there is an element there that rings true for me.
But, I have not given up. :)
Interesting post.
the only true, unconditional love i have ever had was accepting the love of Jesus, my savior. THAT love is what is healing me today!
anulal, was it you who asked about the 2.6 children?? if so, it's really a term of averaging the amount of children to the parents. i would think that 2.6 meant you had two children and were perhaps six months pregnant with the next? anyway, there you have it ;)
@ Jingle--thanks.
@Sheri-Well, I don't think I asked you about 2.6children. Any way thanks for the comment. and I can feel you. It is truly a gift to love unconditionally and to receive it.
Happy Sunday!
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