Monday, September 14, 2009

Malbar Girls

Someone said, when you have nothing else to do, you make love. I have doubts on the credibility of this sentence that is, on the way things turn around into, love making. It is not that I have quoted it and so I believe it. I have quoted this sentence just to show how horrible and lonely I felt, during the previous week. Isn't it horrible to be away from your work for the whole week and that too, not having a girlfriend near! My plight will not strike some if they know that I have no girlfriends at all. So how can I have a girlfriend near, if I have none!

There are many reasons not to have a girlfriend. The primary reason is the difference in the thinking of the common society and this author. The second reason is the typical Malabar girls, who are a necessary product of this conservative, orthodox, narrow- minded society. The way things run here, is really interesting. Every girl is made to believe that the reason for their existence is solely marriage. They should find their heaven or hell under the feet of their 'puruwan' or, man.

Do not misunderstand this statement as a subjugation of women. There is no such 'big deal' happening. In the case of dowry and house assaults, Malabari women suffer the least. Not only that, but after the marriage, they become, in most of the homes, the mistresses or the main decision makers. But don't you dare ask them about this because they prefer humiliating themselves and putting men as the patriarchal masters of their homes, when someone from outside is watching.

There is another truth behind this indirect male subjection. Most of the men live near or in the wife house, and build their world around them. So there is no question of opposing or ruling their wives.

But these are all after marriage phenomenon. Before marriage, these girls are the most perfect Victorian damsels, who never disobey, or trouble their parents through involving in any affairs or relationships. (Or that is what they are supposed to be.). They are taught that sex is a sin and genital is a rubbish hole through which your urine is supposed to pass when you urinate. Do not touch it, it is dirty!! They flinch and blush in the biology classes and giggle during the movie scenes.

They are taught about cast, religion, and social status. If someone approaches them with a proposal for, love, they will first, think about the religion. Then, the cast of the boy and her. If both are of equal status, they proceed.

You can also find some (not talking about prostitutes), who simply fall in love, smile, and be ready to lie with you, with the fragrance of coconut oil in their tresses and sweat in their unshaven arm pits for, they have special powers to understand whether you are a liar or not. Now, this is very important, understanding whether you are a liar or not because every relationship is supposed to end up in MARRIAGE.

And thus what else can I say, until this day, I am alone...


Anya said...

Lovely written !!

Anu Lal said...

Thank you so much Anya

Anonymous said...

hello anulal.....
went through your views on malabar girls and i am sorry to say that i found certain remarks of yours disagreeable.The malabar girls hesitate to fall in love not because they are conservative or narrow-minded but they are being more practical in life .The very high rate of love failures of people who blindly fall (without weighing the pros and cons ) in love made them practical.Malabar girls think before they leap and what is wrong in it????

a Malabar girl

Unknown said...

Dear Anu

This is completely from a male perspective.Do you think 'Malabar girls' are happy with the patriarchal attitudes of Keralite society? And particularly their male counterparts?
Next time try writing on 'Malabar boys'.

Yours Friendly